Simple philosophy

Big Buddy mentoring works on the simple philosophy that boys need good male role models in their lives to become good men. For many reasons, lots of boys in New Zealand don’t have a father and while mothers do a courageous job raising boys alone, they can’t model maleness. And above all else, boys learn through modelling!

Showing up

That’s where Big Buddy comes in. Since 1997 we have carefully screened hundreds of volunteer men from the community and matched them with fatherless boys aged 7-14. Big Buddy mentors spend at least 2-3 hours a week with their Little Buddies, doing whatever they both enjoy – usually simple stuff like walking on beaches, throwing a ball around, making things and visiting places. The important thing is that the Big Buddy shows up regularly in a boy’s life and take a real interest in him.

Outstanding results

The idea is simple but profound. Having a Big Buddy:

  • Increases a boy’s self-esteem
  • Improves his relationships
  • Helps him do better in school
  • Means he’ll be less likely to get into trouble
  • Will improve his employment options

The statistics on positive mentoring are clear and compelling. It’s about making a world of difference to fatherless boys’ lives – one visit at a time.





Up, up and away!

 Wellington International Airport. 22 March 2014. Photo: Mark Tantrum

 The annual Big Buddy Day Out at Long Bay on Auckland’s North Shore was a roaring success. Over 150 men and boys enjoyed fantastic weather as they frolicked in surf and sand, and played a myriad of games. Unfortunately there was a bit too much of a swell for jetskis this year but them’s the breaks!

Wellington coordinator Andrew Morrison hit the ground running at 5am to meet seven Big & Little Buddy matches (pictured above) flying up to Auckland for the big event – courtesy of our sponsors, Jetstar. “It was a fantastic day – really enjoyed flying up with the Wellington matches,” says Andrew. “We had a great time; thanks for a warm welcome from the Auckland BB community – good for our BB/LBs to connect with them and share the day together. Beautiful location, weather was great, heaps of fun playing in the sea, tug of war, cricket, football, Frisbee, delicious food. An excellent day! ”



How can you help?

Step up

We aim to enrich fatherless boys’ lives – one visit at a time. To do this, we need good men to step up as mentors. Would you consider becoming a Big Buddy? You’d get to do fun things like kicking a ball round a park, walking on the beach or fishing – maybe just listening to a boy talk. You’d make a real difference to one boy’s life. If it’s not the right time for you, maybe you know someone who would be a good Big Buddy. Tell him we need him – please Tap a Mate.


The other way to help Big Buddy is to donate. Only 9% of our funding comes from Government, so we rely on the generosity of funders, sponsors and donors to support our work. The more funding the we get, the more matches we make and that’s always our goal. If you can help – or know someone who can – please Donate.

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