Big Buddy works on the simple philosophy that fatherless boys develop more courage and confidence in their lives when they have a positive male role model to learn from.

Welcome to Big Buddy

Big Buddy is a preventative program that finds kind-hearted mentors for fatherless boys between 7 and 14 years of age.  It is a free, secular service that rigorously screens male volunteers from the community then matches them with boys who benefit greatly from just a little of their time.

Find a mentor

Are you mothering or caring for a fatherless boy between 7 and 14 years of age? When fathers are missing from boy's lives, women usually take the full responsibility of bringing sons up alone.  They do a courageous job, but boys benefit greatly from time with a man of good character who can actually 'model' maleness.

Become a mentor

Big Buddy has been matching mentors with fatherless boys since the idea began in 1997. Dedicating as little as 2-3 hours a week for at least a year has a huge impact on their confidence, well-being and ability to make good decisions. You could be one of over 800 men making a difference to boys' lives today.

Become a supporter

Big Buddy is incredibly grateful to all the people and businesses who support us in bettering fatherless boys' lives. If you'd like to support this incredibly worthy cause there are many ways to do it. You can become a donor, a sponsor, leave a bequest or simply spread the word to help us find mentors and funders.

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“My son has a Big Buddy and I couldn't speak more highly of this organisation. They are making real differences in the lives of so many young boys. I adore the happiness and confidence that our Big Buddy brings to my son. Definitely worth the reward if you are someone who can give a few hours a week to make a massive difference in some boy’s life.”


Why mentoring matters


To kick off Mental Health Week Big Buddy picked five of our smashing mentors to showcase the #3lifelessons they aim to leave their Little Buddies with through life. One of Big Buddy's  brilliant screening psychotherapists, John Bryant, points out that a lot of these lessons are learnt subconsciously, as part of a 'walking alongside' model of mentoring, rather than a 'fixing' approach.

Starting October 8, Hop on to Instagram or Facebook  to SEE and SHARE individual lessons from: Builder and Mentor, Alan Ball; Client Service Manager and Mentor, Peter Dix; Lawn Mowing Contractor and Mentor, Bern Green; Procurement Manager and Mentor, Eugene Lowrie; and Truck Driver and Mentor, Gavin Sheehan. Take a minute to reflect on all the 1st lessons from (in order) Bern, Pete, Eugene, Alan and Gavin in the clip on the right.

From October 21 you can also be wowed by matching bill stickers at key sites in Auckland, Wellington and the Waikato. More on that to come!